Have you fully accepted yourself and your sexuality?
I was thinking about speaking to this today as I put on my leather wrist bands. There was a time when I would have felt shame and been concerned with what other people thought when I dressed up in my leather bondage garb.
Not anymore! (It took me until I was 50 years old folks, LOL!) I’m proud of being self expressed and fully accepting of my alternative and kinky lifestyle.
Many of us are curious about other lifestyles and don’t express ourselves because we are not fully accepting of ourselves. In essence we do not trust ourselves. And if we are holding back our true desires around our sexuality, then we are being inauthentic with ourselves and with our current lover if we are in relationship. This is NOT Self Love or Self Acceptance!
QUESTION EVERYTHING! Most of the time, our beliefs come from childhood and societal programming. Those beliefs are not necessarily ours. Question them. Try them on. If they do not fit, throw them out!
Beliefs have to be defended because we do not directly experience them as true. When we have an experience of our own truth, what works for us, then it does not need to be defended. In order to do this we must be willing to get out of our comfort zone and explore.
Don’t get trapped in a lifestyle or with a partner that does not allow YOUR TRUE sexual expression! Believe me, you will regret it someday.
Instead, be authentic. Be in discovery. Explore your sexual self. And radiate that beautiful energy wherever you go! And by all means, communicate your true sexuality with your partner or partners.
Coming out is glorious thing! It speeds up the process to full self acceptance. And ultimately, FREEDOM!
Have fun!
Light & Love,
Dr. Rusty
It is great to see the BDSM community represented so well. I’ve been in the life style since I was a teen, been bisexual since I was a kid, and though I no longer hide my bisexuality, I still get a little nervous about the bondage part, being a business owner. So again, thanks.
After i found a polar oppostite (superchemistry, as i call it), i was up for almost amything. He was the most masculibe mam id ever met. When we were together, we felt a deep sense of peace, bonding. & out of thos world sexually. We were both afraid of being addicted to each other. He told me that he tried to pull away& could not. Same for me. Problem was, our personalities didnt get along. Since then,2 years ago, i have felt chemistry only once. I think the comparison between superchemistry & regular chemistry is so extreme, i will settle for nothing less.
I once asked the Universe if a person had more than one polar opposite. Two weeks later, I met another ~the energies were unmistakable. Problem was, he was my 20 year old engaged cousin.
I know i will find another. I feel my earlier experiece was getting me ready.